“Servants, be
submissive to your masters with all respect … even to those who are
unreasonable! …
You wives, be submissive to your husbands in the same way…. just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him
lord.”
(1 Peter 2:18–3:6 excerpts)
Wives,
submit to your husbands, just like slaves submit to their owners
No one wants to preach that sermon. No one wants to talk about submission these
days – even Jesus’ disciples! Jesus: the
single greatest example of submissive service in human history.
No, these days we are taught to “stand up for our
rights,” and never let others tell you what to do. If a woman is submissive to her husband, you
can bet she will be mocked. If an
employee is submissive to his boss, he’s seen as a kisser of unmentionable body
parts. And woe to the poor minority
person who is seen as submissive to authority, especially authority of a
different race, gender or sexual orientation.
The world cries out to dominate – never submit. Brag, never be humble. We defensively refuse to ever “allow anyone
to take advantage” of us. We prefer the
philosophy of Conan the Barbarian:
What is best in life?
To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to
hear the lamentation of their women
Or we constantly seek revenge disguised as justice
like gangsters, mobsters or the Hatfields & McCoys. Nobody better wrong us, or we’ll wrong them
back.
And so there's never a time when preachers say: "submission is a virtue," or "let others take advantage of you" or "turn the other cheek means exactly what Jesus said it meant." Audiences today would lynch any such preacher.
I believe this is a huge problem in God’s
kingdom. I’m not so much concerned with
the world, but within the kingdom, we’re supposed to understand that submissive
service is not only honorable, it’s powerful.
Then he poured water
into the basin, and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the
towel with which he was girded. So he came to Simon Peter who said to him,
“Lord, do you wash my feet?” Jesus answered and said to him, “What I do you
do not realize now, but you will understand hereafter.”
So when he had
washed their feet, and taken His garments and reclined again, he said to them,
“Do you know what I have done to you? You
call me ‘Teacher’ and ‘Lord;’ and you are right, for I am. If I then, the Lord
and the teacher, washed your feet, you also ought to wash one another’s feet. For I
gave you an example that you also should do as I did to you. Truly, truly, I
say to you, a slave is not greater than his master, nor is one who is sent
greater than the one who sent him.
If you know these things, you are
blessed if you do them.”
(John 13:5-7; 12 –17)
Jesus was not putting on a show, like we so often see
these days in silly foot-washings. Jesus
was doing the job of a low-down slave. And
why? To make a point.
Pay special attention to the relationship of lords and
servants. We tend to think like the
world: that the ‘lord’ is the one with the power – and so we want to be the
boss, the master, the teacher or lord, so we can tell others what to do. But scripture refutes this notion, and Jesus focuses
on the power of submission.
Submission comes up in lots of ways in God’s word. Not only are we to submit to good leaders,
but during the reign of Nero Paul would write that we should submit to
governing authorities. Above Peter (who
seems to have learned his lesson from Jesus) says slaves should submit even to
bad owners and wives to their husbands.
Paul wrote several bits about submission to the church in Ephesus, even
at one point suggesting we “submit to one another.” (Ephesians 5.21)
Another way submission is important and misunderstood
is in our relationship to Yahweh. Because of the centuries-old bickering between
various denominations, we've become a culture obsessed with the mechanics of
salvation. Are we saved by works, faith,
grace, or some of each? Of course the
problem for works-based folks is that they cannot succeed, so they need
work-arounds, like priests telling people to say “Hail Marys,” or just outright
selling indulgences. The problem for the
grace-based folks is that they have to go out of their way to explain that
nothing they do is ever designed to save them.
And why is this such a problem?
It’s a problem because our admission to God’s kingdom
is not based on winning a battle over sin, or winning anything, for that
matter. Our admission to the kingdom
comes when we surrender. We become God’s children when we are begotten
of God and surrender to rebirth.
Baptism, therefore, isn't something we do, it’s an act of
submission. When a general loses a
battle and kneels before the conqueror (or signs papers, or surrenders his
sword), the only action he’s doing is submission. If the victor tells the loser that he’ll
spare his life if he will kneel, then the kneeling loser didn't do something to be saved other than
submit to his better.
“We are Abraham’s descendants and have never yet been enslaved to
anyone; how is it that you say, ‘You will become free’?”
Jesus answered them,
“Truly, truly, I say to
you, everyone who commits sin is the slave of sin.
(John 8:33–34)
“How shall we who
died to sin still live in it? Or do you not know that all of us who have been
baptized into Christ Jesus have been baptized into His death?
…knowing this, that
our old self was crucified with Him,
in order that our body of sin might be done away with, so that we would no
longer be slaves to sin; for he who has died is freed from sin.
… Don’t let sin
reign in your mortal body so that you obey its lusts, and do not go on
presenting the members of your body to sin as instruments of unrighteousness; but present yourselves to God
as those alive from the dead, and your members as instruments of righteousness to God.
For sin shall not be
master over you, for you are not under law but under grace.
…Don’t you know that
when you present yourselves to someone as
slaves for obedience, you are slaves of the one whom you obey, either
of sin resulting in death, or of obedience resulting in righteousness?
But thanks be to God that though you were slaves of sin, you became obedient
from the heart to that form of teaching to which you were committed, and having
been freed from sin, you became slaves of righteousness. I am speaking in human
terms because of the weakness of your flesh. For just as you presented your
members as slaves to impurity and to lawlessness, resulting in lawlessness, so
now present your members as slaves to righteousness, resulting in
sanctification.”
(Excerpts from Romans 6)
When we are born again, we become new creatures. The difference between us before that moment
and after it isn't just that now we’re going to try to be good. The difference is a change in ownership.
We used to be slaves to our own flesh, obeying its
desires. Now we are slaves of God.
We used to be subject to our pride and ego – now we humble
ourselves before Yahweh.
We used to be slaves to the opinions of others – now we
care nothing for the opinion of men, only God.
The whole of our new lives is to be surrendered –
submitted – to God, and God only. It’s
not something we DO or don’t do, it’s a surrender. Surrender may come with terms, but those
terms don’t mean we “did” something to win … it simply means we bow before our
new boss.
Being disciplined requires effort, but surrendering is
giving up. It’s quitting.
Going forward
Your challenge is to consider how you submit and to what
or whom you submit.
Do you think it’s a bad thing to submit?
If so, please reconsider.
Our new boss (Jesus) taught us to turn the other
cheek, to go the extra mile and to love our enemies. Everything he did and said was an act of
submission, leading to even his death. And
yes, sometimes people will take advantage of you, just as they took advantage
of Jesus. That fear is exactly what
Satan uses to keep you as his ___.
Do you think submission is weakness?
It can be.
Submitting because you’re afraid is weakness. But godly submission is not so!
Scripture teaches women to submit to husbands, not for
husbands to insist upon it, and mistreat them if they don’t. If a wife refuses to submit, then that’s
it. If a wife (or anyone else) submits
because they’re afraid, either of their husband, their boss, or of going to
hell if they don’t – then that’s not true Godly submission. Godly submission is something we do who are confident
in the power of God. We can “afford” to
submit, because we are faithful enough to take it. When Jesus allowed people to spit on him and
beat him, was it because he was afraid of them?
Absurd. Jesus submitted precisely
to show his great power, and so can we.
God gives us the same choice we must give others. We can submit to God or not. He never tries to force us. Only Satan uses coercion, bribery and
intimidation. Sons of God give others a
chance to submit or not. Children of
Satan stand up for themselves and never let others “bully” or take
advantage.
Do you think that obeying God requires great strength and
discipline?
Then you don’t know submission/surrender.
Right now you are fighting against your boss – your fleshly
appetites, or the opinions of other people, or whatever it is that governs
you.
Fighting your boss IS hard - so change bosses.
Men, stop letting your ego, your vanity, your taste
buds and/or your wieners boss you around.
Women, learn the strength your great-grandmothers
had. They, like Jesus, understood the
power of servant leadership. They
understood that true beauty isn't external – it’s strength and wisdom. This will earn you more than affection, it
will earn you respect. Learn to be generous
like Tabitha in Acts 9 or shrewd like Abigail of 1 Samuel 25. These were women who understood the power of
submission from wisdom and humility; and did not submit to the court of human
opinion.
Please take some time to actually sit and think about
submission as a source of true power and as a means to obedience. Remember that in scripture it’s always the
humble person, the servant – who is God’s favorite.
Submit yourselves (for the
Lord’s sake) to every human institution….
Servants, be submissive to your masters with all respect, not only to those who are good
and gentle, but also to those who are unreasonable. For this finds favor, if for the sake of
conscience toward God a person bears up under sorrows when suffering unjustly. For
what credit is there if, when you sin and are harshly treated, you endure it
with patience? But if when you do what is right and suffer for it you
patiently endure it, this finds favor with God.
For you have been
called for this purpose: since Christ also suffered for you, leaving you an
example for you to follow in His steps, who committed no sin (nor was any
deceit found in his mouth); and while being reviled, He did not revile in
return; while suffering, He uttered no threats, but kept entrusting Himself
to Him who judges righteously; and He Himself bore our sins in His body on the
cross, so that we might die to sin and live to righteousness; for by His wounds
you were healed. For you were continually straying like sheep, but now you have
returned to the Shepherd and Guardian of your souls.
In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are
disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of
their wives, as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior. Your
adornment must not be external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or
putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with
the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the
sight of God.
For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in
God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands; just as
Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you
do what is right without being frightened by any fear….
To sum up, all of
you be harmonious, sympathetic, brotherly, kindhearted, and humble in spirit; not
returning evil for evil or insult for insult, but giving a blessing instead;
for you were called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing….
Who is there to harm
you if you prove zealous for what is good? But even if you should suffer for
the sake of righteousness, you are blessed.
And don’t fear their
intimidation…
And don’t be
troubled,
…but sanctify
Christ as Lord in your hearts….
For it is better, if
God should will it so, that you suffer for doing what is right rather than for
doing what is wrong. For Christ also died for sins once for all, the
just for the unjust, so that He might bring us to God, having been put
to death in the flesh, but made alive in the spirit; in which also He went and
made proclamation to the spirits now in prison, who once were
disobedient, when the patience of God kept waiting in the days of Noah, during
the construction of the ark, in which a few … were brought safely through water.
Corresponding to that, baptism now saves you—not the removal of
dirt from the flesh, but an appeal to God for a good conscience—through the
resurrection of Jesus Christ, who is at the right hand of God, having gone into
heaven, after angels and authorities and powers had been subjected to Him.
(Excerpts from 1
Peter 2:13–3:22)